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Blomquist: No Joke — Let’s Take Care of the Lawyers

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blomquist-kerryA dear non-lawyer friend of mine recently gave me a joke book about lawyers.1 If you’re like me you have received such a gift before and you smile, nod your head, chuckle at the gesture, and relegate the book to being a bathroom staple until your conscience allows you to throw it away.

Inside you are thinking “Really? Changing lawyers is like changing decks on the Titanic? I hate this kind of tripe.” After all, I belong to an ancient and honorable profession. The profession of Abraham Lincoln, Thurgood Marshall, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Mahatma Gandhi, and somebody’s cousin named Vinnie. People who know less of Shakespeare than they think delight in invoking him by saying “first kill all the lawyers,” when, in actuality, the Bard’s point was that if a tyrant wants to avoid challenge or accountability, getting rid of the lawyers would be a useful strategy—making that line a shout out from the Bard himself.

Nevertheless, right now we seem to be in a historical cycle when lawyers are not generally held in high esteem, and frankly, this irritates the daylights out of me for two reasons:

1. It is undeserved. For centuries lawyers have been the champions of the liberties that protect us all, including the depraved, the guilty and the wrongfully accused. What began as the moral code of biblical times has evolved into the property issues of a post-Imperial Europe, the contracts between individuals with newfound freedoms and the protection of individuals from wrongful acts. I need not remind this audience that our good work has resulted in safer workplaces, justice for marginalized populations, cleaner food and water, and safer products for our families. Lawyers have been, and continue to be, progressives in social change.

2. This negative perception of lawyers is damaging my profession and frankly my friends and colleagues. Studies show that lawyers, when being held in public low esteem often react by holding themselves in private low esteem. And lets face it: we belong to a profession that asks people to bring us their problems, and not the easy ones at that. A typical client is often unhappy about having the problem and unhappy about having to pay a lawyer to take care of the problem. We are trained to focus on logic and set aside emotion, which may be good for detached examination of a legal issue, but it is probably not the best method for dealing with personal stress. The results are both tragic and predictable. Death by suicide among lawyers is six times that of the general population. If you don’t know of a colleague who has wrestled with substance abuse or depression, you are either in denial or a tax lawyer.2

I reached out to Loretta Oleksy, attorney and clinical case manager at the Indiana Judges & Lawyers Assistance Program (JLAP) and she captured my attention right away by noting that our adversarial system adds a dimension not found in many other professions. Let’s face it, a surgeon may be under stress while operating on a patient, but there isn’t an equally skilled surgeon in the operating room trying to kill the patient at the same time.

Loretta noted to me that JLAP certainly helps practitioners with substance abuse and depression issues but it also helps sufferers of compassion fatigue: the cumulative physical, emotional and spiritual exhaustion that results from emotionally demanding work situations. Common signs of compassion fatigue include sleep disruption, feeling overwhelmed, increased anxiety and too often adopting clients’ stress as your stress.

So now I know. In the Land of Compassion Fatigue, I am their undoubted Queen.

The good news is that Loretta also gave me some marching orders—compassion fatigue is preventable and certainly treatable:

Sleep. Really. Seven to nine hours a night.

Follow a regular exercise regimen. It’s spring. Take a walk at lunch! Hint: Exercise helps you sleep better too.

Set boundaries. We rarely do our best work at 11 p.m.

Unplug. I know this is increasingly difficult but stop sending the message that you are ALWAYS reachable. You don’t have to be.

Laugh. It is the best medicine.

Good nutrition is key but don’t go crazy. Never completely eliminate chocolate if it can be avoided because, in my opinion, it is the source of all things good.

Finally, remember, JLAP is here to help and support judges, lawyers, and law students who are dealing with all issues that affect our quality of life and/or our ability to practice law. All contact is completely confidential.

And about the lawyer jokes? I remain annoyed on behalf of the profession that brought you the mythical Denny Crane, who would undoubtedly say: “If you think lawyer jokes are funny, next time you’re in a jam, call a comedian.”•

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  1. From his recent appearance on WRTV to this story here, Frank is everywhere. Couldn't happen to a nicer guy, although he should stop using Eric Schnauffer for his 7th Circuit briefs. They're not THAT hard.

  2. They learn our language prior to coming here. My grandparents who came over on the boat, had to learn English and become familiarize with Americas customs and culture. They are in our land now, speak ENGLISH!!

  3. @ Rebecca D Fell, I am very sorry for your loss. I think it gives the family solace and a bit of closure to go to a road side memorial. Those that oppose them probably did not experience the loss of a child or a loved one.

  4. If it were your child that died maybe you'd be more understanding. Most of us don't have graves to visit. My son was killed on a state road and I will be putting up a memorial where he died. It gives us a sense of peace to be at the location he took his last breath. Some people should be more understanding of that.

  5. Can we please take notice of the connection between the declining state of families across the United States and the RISE OF CPS INVOLVEMENT??? They call themselves "advocates" for "children's rights", however, statistics show those children whom are taken from, even NEGLIGENT homes are LESS likely to become successful, independent adults!!! Not to mention the undeniable lack of respect and lack of responsibility of the children being raised today vs the way we were raised 20 years ago, when families still existed. I was born in 1981 and I didn't even ever hear the term "CPS", in fact, I didn't even know they existed until about ten years ago... Now our children have disagreements between friends and they actually THREATEN EACH OTHER WITH, "I'll call CPS" or "I'll have [my parent] (usually singular) call CPS"!!!! And the truth is, no parent is perfect and we all have flaws and make mistakes, but it is RIGHTFULLY OURS - BY THE CONSTITUTION OF THIS GREAT NATION - to be imperfect. Let's take a good look at what kind of parenting those that are stealing our children are doing, what kind of adults are they producing? WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS TO THE CHILDREN THAT HAVE BEEN RIPPED FROM THEIR FAMILY AND THAT CHILD'S SUCCESS - or otherwise - AS AN ADULT.....

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