Dear Ms. Lucas,

 Thank you for your editorial in the Aug. 3 -16 edition of the Indiana Lawyer addressing the issue of whether women attorneys can really have it all and inviting your readers to share their own experience in balancing work and family and offer innovative solutions. As an attorney, author, parent and the founder of Socratic Parenting LLC, I’ve come to the conclusion that I can have it all, just not all at the same time. In part, I have it all because I am married to an attorney who earns enough on his own to support our family comfortably. I hope that one day, maybe when our 10-year-old daughter enters a profession, we’ll have moved beyond our patriarchal paradigm, not toward gender neutrality, but toward a society that embraces and values men and women equally. Only then will women, and men, be able to have it all and all at the same time.

Thank you again for your insightful viewpoint.

Laurie Gray
Fort Wayne

Read more about Laurie’s experience at www.theindianalawyer.com/more-on-laurie-gray/PARAMS/article/29428