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McGoff: It is a new year, start creating a new 'you'

Sharon McGoff
January 2, 2013
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mcgoffEach year, as Jan. 1 approaches and we gaze in the mirror at the after effects of the holidays … dark circles under our eyes, too many cookies and an over-abundance of cocktail parties, we set our sights on resolutions. We vow that “this time” we are going to do it! However, the statistics show that over 80 percent of us who set New Year’s resolutions will fail. This year, don’t be among the 80 percent. This year, set your New Year’s goal so that you can and will attain it.

The top three reasons New Year’s resolutions fail:

1. You were over-zealous with your resolutions and what you could conceivably accomplish.

2. You didn’t write your goals down on paper or tell anyone.

3. You got discouraged when you didn’t see immediate results.

The top three resolutions:

1. Lose weight

2. Exercise

3. De-stress

Often, these goals go hand-in-hand: we resolve to lose weight, begin an exercise program, and live a stress-free life. Taking on any one of these goals is challenging, but to tackle all three of them at once, in the dead of winter’s dreary, dark days, is a set up for failure. Add to this the fact that most of our goals are unreasonable, i.e. losing 10 lbs a week; exercising every day for an hour when you haven’t exercised since high school; never eating dessert or fast food again; sleeping eight hours a night when you typically get five hours of sleep. Can you see how failure is imminent? The goals are over-zealous in the time frame that we want to see results.

This year, do something different with making your resolutions:

1. Choose one resolution.

2. Set small, simple and attainable goals.

3. Change your goals along the way.

Choose one resolution. If you decide your resolution is to lose weight through changing your eating habits, don’t think of it as a “diet.” That four-letter word brings with it thoughts of deprivation, inevitably setting you up for failure because you can’t live the rest of your life without dessert or fast food! “Diets” also mean counting calories and weighing in, neither of which is enjoyable and can be very time-consuming. Instead, keep it simple: Strive to eat a majority of your food as unprocessed as possible. For instance, an apple is unprocessed. Applesauce with sugar, cinnamon flavor and red food coloring turns this unprocessed apple into a processed food. All you have to think about each time you eat something is ‘how far away is it from its natural state’ and make a valiant effort to eat as unprocessed as possible. No need to count calories or step on the dreaded scale. If this goal is too high to achieve on a daily basis, change it and eat as unprocessed as possible three days a week.

If your resolution is to begin an exercise program, be realistic and simple. There is no need to join a gym or buy expensive exercise equipment. In past years, you joined the gym, exercised one hour every day, and became exhausted or injured. After a few weeks, you stopped going to the gym but still paid for the membership. This year, make it simple. Set small, attainable goals for the first month and slowly increase your goal. For instance, vow to exercise 10 minutes a day at home before work (or after work). If you need a list of exercises to do at home without equipment or with a few inexpensive weights or bands, Google it or send me an email and I will give you ideas to get started. If three days a week was too much for you, exercise two days a week. After a month or two of slowly building up your exercise time, you might decide to set a new goal to join a gym or buy a treadmill to use at home.

Maybe the resolution you need the most is to de-stress your life. Don’t we all need this? Start simple and progress as you attain each goal. If you know you get stressed because you are sleep deprived and you need eight hours of sleep a night, resolve to sleep an extra 15 minutes a night for the first few weeks instead of tackling the lofty goal of saying, “I’m going to sleep eight hours every night, starting tonight.” If that means you have to start by adding an extra five minutes of sleep to begin, so be it. Eventually, step by slow step, you will reach your ultimate goal of getting eight hours of sleep a night.

No matter which small, attainable, simple goal you set, be patient with seeing results. You didn’t get into “this” situation overnight and it will take more than overnight to see results. Take comfort in knowing the changes you make are slowly but surely doing great things for your body and mind. This year, do something different. … don’t be one of the 80 percent!•

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Sharon McGoff is a graduate of Indiana University Maurer School of Law, a certified personal trainer and health fitness specialist with the American College of Sports Medicine, and a certified life and wellness coach with WellCoaches, Inc. She welcomes your questions or comments at Smcgoff@comcast.net. The opinions expressed are those of the author.
 

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  1. I will continue to pray that God keeps giving you the strength and courage to keep fighting for what is right and just so you are aware, you are an inspiration to those that are feeling weak and helpless as they are trying to figure out why evil keeps winning. God Bless.....

  2. Some are above the law in Indiana. Some lined up with Lodges have controlled power in the state since the 1920s when the Klan ruled Indiana. Consider the comments at this post and note the international h.q. in Indianapolis. http://www.theindianalawyer.com/human-trafficking-rising-in-indiana/PARAMS/article/42468. Brave journalists need to take this child torturing, above the law and antimarriage cult on just like The Globe courageously took on Cardinal Law. Are there any brave Hoosier journalists?

  3. I am nearing 66 years old..... I have no interest in contacting anyone. All I need to have is a nationality....a REAL Birthday...... the place U was born...... my soul will never be at peace. I have lived my life without identity.... if anyone can help me please contact me.

  4. This is the dissent discussed in the comment below. See comments on that story for an amazing discussion of likely judicial corruption of some kind, the rejection of the rule of law at the very least. http://www.theindianalawyer.com/justices-deny-transfer-to-child-custody-case/PARAMS/article/42774#comment

  5. That means much to me, thank you. My own communion, to which I came in my 30's from a protestant evangelical background, refuses to so affirm me, the Bishop's courtiers all saying, when it matters, that they defer to the state, and trust that the state would not be wrong as to me. (LIttle did I know that is the most common modernist catholic position on the state -- at least when the state acts consistent with the philosophy of the democrat party). I asked my RCC pastor to stand with me before the Examiners after they demanded that I disavow God's law on the record .... he refused, saying the Bishop would not allow it. I filed all of my file in the open in federal court so the Bishop's men could see what had been done ... they refused to look. (But the 7th Cir and federal judge Theresa Springmann gave me the honor of admission after so reading, even though ISC had denied me, rendering me a very rare bird). Such affirmation from a fellow believer as you have done here has been rare for me, and that dearth of solidarity, and the economic pain visited upon my wife and five children, have been the hardest part of the struggle. They did indeed banish me, for life, and so, in substance did the the Diocese, which treated me like a pariah, but thanks to this ezine ... and this is simply amazing to me .... because of this ezine I am not silenced. This ezine allowing us to speak to the corruption that the former chief "justice" left behind, yet embedded in his systems when he retired ... the openness to discuss that corruption (like that revealed in the recent whistleblowing dissent by courageous Justice David and fresh breath of air Chief Justice Rush,) is a great example of the First Amendment at work. I will not be silenced as long as this tree falling in the wood can be heard. The Hoosier Judiciary has deep seated problems, generational corruption, ideological corruption. Many cases demonstrate this. It must be spotlighted. The corrupted system has no hold on me now, none. I have survived their best shots. It is now my time to not be silent. To the Glory of God, and for the good of man's law. (It almost always works that way as to the true law, as I explained the bar examiners -- who refused to follow even their own statutory law and violated core organic law when banishing me for life -- actually revealing themselves to be lawless.)

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